Why so many Thai women say sex is overrated and name eating as their favorite indulgence
January 21, 2012 § 1 Comment
Kung, on the other hand, is a nice girl of the old school — trends take time to propagate and the Confused Modern Girl Syndrome (“not sure what I want or why”) has not yet reached Sukhothai whence she came only a month ago to work. The deal is clear and she observes it professionally: she serves her clients and for this she is paid the sum agreed. She treats her customers with the traditional feudal respect and deference, and does not try to gouge more money, or more emotional commitment, than was agreed at the outset.
Work has not been a smashing success: foreigners prefer girls who speak English; so Kung spends her days with phrase books and dictionaries and watching English TV; but it is precisely her poor English that has led me to hire her: girls who speak no English are new-c0mers and have not had time to grow rude and smart-allecky, which is a very fast change, and unsurprising given from whom they learn. But newcomers are still nice Thai girls in the traditional mold: polite and gentle and neat. Pleasant company. Good huggers.
Like most young girls today, Kung has not been trained by her mother to serve. It does not occur to her to pick up the garbage, or hang out the towels, or sweep the floor. She does not realize that her job is really to provide comfort, not just sex. I should not wonder if this is why her husband has left her. Which to my mind, at least, is a strong reason to pick older women.
The sex is like all Thai sex: it is foreplay-less, and remarkably unsensual. Once penetration has been achieved, the girls do warm up to the act and do appear to enjoy themselves, even come. But they don’t enjoy kissing, and don’t know how to, and if you try to kiss their necks, or the inside of their elbows, or stroke the backs of their thighs, they squeak jakachee (“you tickle me!”). Lacking the emotional heightening of foreplay, I find the whole thing dull and often lose interest in the middle of the act. I can see why so many Thai women say sex is overrated and name eating as their favorite indulgence.
It is the same with woman after woman after woman, whether professional or amateur or virtuous. The attraction of Thailand to single men cannot be the quality of the thing; just its availability.